Mary van Balen

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Mary van Balen holds a MA in Theology and is an adjunct instructor of theology.


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Mary will design a retreat or presentation to meet the needs and interests of your group.


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Ritual and "icons" for participants are part of many of Mary's retreats and presentations. Here women from the Episcopal Diocese of Southern Ohio pick an ocean pebble to carry with them for the Quiet Day of Prayer sponsored by Daughters of the King.


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"Reflections on a Monk Bowl" uses this handmade Buddhist begging bowl from Thailand.


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Mary speaks to a diverse audience that includes among others, students, professors, monks, sisters, and scholars from Saint John's University, the College of Saint Benedict, Saint John's Abbey, and the Collegeville Institute in Collegeville, Minnesota.

........Retreats & Presentations......... Mary will develop a presentation or retreat to fit your group's needs........... or chose a presentation from those listed below.

SHORT PRESENTATIONS: MORNING, AFTERNOON, OR EVENING


Mystics in Marketplace


The word "mystic" often conjures images of saints levitating at prayer, healing the sick, or talking to animals. Most people would not place themselves in that category. Yet, none of these experiences are basic reality of being a mystic. What is? A mystic is one who experiences God, and as the documents of Vatican II remind us, all are called to holiness; all are gifted with a relationship with God. As Karl Rahner said, "The Christian of the future will be a mystic or will be nothing at all."

In this presentation, Mary explores the meaning of "mystic" and ways to nurture the gift of experiencing God that are available to every one. Complete with prayer cards for participants to take home, this talk can be scheduled for a half-hour or longer, depending on the interest and desire of the group.

Making Old Prayers New: A Fresh Look At the Familiar


Often what is familiar is taken for granted. How often do we pray the Our Father or listen to a Scripture reading without speaking or listening with attentiveness? After exploring this thought and the effects of familiarity, I will share different translations of the Our Father and some Psalms and help participants make them their own, first as a group and then by providing time for them to work individually.

After everyone has finished, we will share the “new” prayers and how the process has helped put fresh life into what has become commonplace.

Time: 2 hours

Reflections on a Monk Bowl


photo:Mary van Balen-Buddhist monk and begging bowl Thailand
Series of two presentations using the monk bowl as a visual metaphor; good Lenten themes (Either presentation could stand alone)

1. God Is Already Dwelling Within Us
This presentation first looks at three understandings of Grace: Augustine/Luther, Aquinas, Rahner.

Building on Rahner’s concept of grace, I use the monk’s bowl as a metaphor
for God’s gift to us not only of the capacity for God’s gift of self, but also for the
ability to accept that Gift. The talk addresses the need to empty ourselves to make
room for God. This can be connected wih Lenten practices. (The talk can be given
at other times as well without explicit reference to Lent.)

2. St. Francis’ Bowl was Messy, Too.

I explore the idea of being grateful for everything that is put into the “bowls” of our lives,
even for the things we didn’t want or expect. This presentation ends with participants drawing
something out of the bowl that will remind them of God’s loveing presence.


Blessings In Disguise: A Celtic Vision of God-With-Us


After looking at definitions of “blessing” I will discuss three characteristics of
Celtic spirituality and its vision of God’s presence in every day life. Together we will
explore what disguised our blessings and how we might practice to see the blessings
around us more clearly. During this presentation I will share a variety of examples
of Celtic prayers.

Time: 1 ˝ hours

ONE-DAY RETREATS


The Grace of Friendship


This retreat draws on Scripture, history, and personal experience to explore the “Grace of
Friendship.” It consists of four sessions and time for participants to create something for
a friend or a service project. The sessions include presentations, small group activities
and large group sharing as well as an introduction to Lectio Divina.

The morning and afternoon both end with a simple ritual

I will provide a booklet for participants either by emailing it electronically to be duplicated or bringing the finished booklets. (Reimbursement for finished booklets required)

Drawn Deeper: Journaling into Spirituality and Prayer


Drawn Deeper: Journaling Into Spirituality and Prayer
Everyone experiences God in the present, not in the past or future. Although this truth is
commonly accepted, being attentive to the moment is difficult. This workshop will engage
participants in a variety of journaling exercises that will help them become more present
to the moment and therefore more responsive to the Divine Relationship that is offered in
it. Using the journal as a writer’s notebook to become awake to the extraordinary in
everyday life, using a jeweler’s loupe to look closely, and sketching to focus are some
approaches that will be used. Participants are asked to bring journals. (Mary uses
blank pages, but bring what makes you want to write.)

Time: 1 day. morning sessions, lunch, and afternoon sessions. This time frame allows
time for participants to engage in the exercises and to share and ask questions after each.

Desert Fathers and Mothers: Wisdom From the Desert for Today's World


A Quiet Day of Reflection

The Desert Fathers and Mothers of fourth century Egypt had a great influence on Western monasticism and spirituality through great Latin spiritual writers like John Cassian and St. Jerome. This workshop begins with a short prayer service followed by a look at the historical background of the monastic movement in the Egyptian desert.
Three sessions based on life of the desert fathers and mothers follow: I Power of the Word, II Prayer, III Compassion and Service.

Each session follows this pattern: a fifteen-minute presentation on the topic focusing on the desert monks’ lived example. A time of silent reflection (length is flexible, but usually around 20-25 minutes) follows in which participants are free to move about, to find a comfortable place, to read excerpts from sayings of the desert fathers and mothers which are provided in a booklet/​handout. Blank pages for thoughts are provided in the booklet for each section. The booklet also includes a section of titles for further reading.

Two sessions are presented before lunch, the third session after lunch with a time for sharing provided after the last reflection period. This has been given with a Mass closing the day.

Time: 1 day; two morning sessions, one afternoon session

Lectio Divina: An Ancient Prayer for a Modern World


Some presentations make use of PowerPoint or other visuals
Lectio Divina: Prayer for Today

Pope Benedict XVI has encouraged a return to the practice of Lectio Divina. This presentation outlines the history of the prayer form beginning with its Jewish roots, continuing through monastic forms, the middle ages, and its renewal in modern times. (A twenty-minute Power Point can accompany this section if desired.)

After the presentation and questions, I will lead the participants in a “group lectio,” giving them the opportunity to experience the prayer together. We will share their experience and I will answer questions before the next session.

45 minutes will be given to allow participants to practice Lectio with selected passages from Scripture. We will gather as a group to share the experience, insights, and questions.

The following session will introduce the practice of keeping a Lectio Journal. After this presentation, 45 minutes will be provided for paricipants to practice Lectio with selected passages from Scripture and try journaling with it if desired.

The group will gather again to share their experience of theirLectio Time and ask questions.

Participants will leave with a good idea of how to continue the practice of Lectio Divina as part of their prayer life.

Time: 1 day; Number of sessions flexible

TWO-DAY RETREATS



We Are All Pilgrims: Journeying Together To God


This program consists of four presentations. They can be done in a retreat setting,
giving the first on Friday evening, one on Saturday morning and one on Saturday
afternoon, and the last either on Saturday evening or Sunday morning depending on
plans for reflection, prayer services, and Sunday worship.

Historical aspects of pilgrimage will be combined with less traditional understanding and
practice.

Each session provides opportunities for participants to share in a large group. If the groups
are large, they can be broken into smaller groups to facilitate sharing.


I use a small notebook for use of participants much as medieval pilgrims had “passports” to be stamped at every stop. I could provide an electronic copy to be duplicated, or if that is not possible, I would have them printed and would be reimbursed for copy costs.

Drawn Deeper: Journaling Into Spirituality and Prayer


The one-day retreat above can be extended to two days with opportunities to try different types of journaling and prayer.

Selected Works

Devotional
A Dwelling Place Within
A book of reflections based on the spirituality of St. Francis of Assisi
Inspirational
Marriage: A Covenant of Seasons
A celebration of marriage that encourages the reader to embrace all the seasons.
All Earth Is Crammed With Heaven: Daily Reflections for Mothers
A collection of anecdotes and reflections upon the presence of the Sacred in ordinary life
Biography
Meet Katharine Drexel: Heiress and God's Servant of the Oppressed
The story of a courageous woman who traded a life of wealth for one of service

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